Have you ever had one of those days that life just seems to absolutely beat you down and knock all of the wind out of your sails? Have those days even turned into many days of feeling helpless or hopeless? During those times it is very difficult to put a smile on your face and to pretend that everything in your life is completely and totally perfect. However, so many of us do just that. I am guilty of it. My heart can be broken or I may feel that my world is crumbling around me and I have nothing to smile about at all. What do I do? I smile anyway and if someone should notice that I am having a difficult time then I will respond with a great big smile and say something about how great I am doing and what an awesome day that I am having. The truth is that I am really hurting deep inside but I do not want anybody to know about my pain.
I think as Christians we think that every single day we are supposed to be strong and filled with faith. The fact is that there are days that we do not want to even get out of bed and face the reality of the day that lies ahead of us. We put on a mask that portrays happiness and joy. However, behind the mask is just a simple human who is in need of a kind word, a hug, and especially in need of love. Why do we do that? I know I cannot be the only person who wears a mask and hides my emotions and feelings.
I think the reason that I wear a mask at times is because I feel embarrassed or weak if I am not on top of the mountain and my joy is not overflowing. I was always taught that life is tough and I may just need to wear a helmet. I was taught that life can be tough but I have to be tougher or to just simply get over it. I have also been taught that it is simply a disgrace to be down or sad after all that God has done for me. I should feel ashamed to have negative emotions coming from me. How dare a tear stain my cheek in sadness?
Is it really so bad to just be real? I am just a human and God made me the way that I am. He put feelings and emotions in us. If we did not have these emotions or feelings then we would be more like robots. I have bad days and I am sure everyone has bad days. We go through seasons of heartache and sadness that life has dealt to us and we have absolutely no power over our circumstances or over the pain that we are forced to deal with.
Please do not misunderstand what I am trying to convey. We should not walk around constantly in gloom and despair. I do not believe that we should have regular pity parties for ourselves. I do believe that there are times that we need someone to talk to and share our hurt and pain. I think that there are times that we all need to be held by loving arms and we need to be reassured that everything is going to be alright. James 5:16 says, “Admit your faults to one another and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” I think your faults used in this scripture may be your pain, heartache, or anger that you do not have the strength to get through by yourself. When you share your feelings with someone that you trust and you know that person will pray with you or for you then healing can take place in your heart.
Let’s be real just for a moment. Life can seem so unfair at times. Pain is real and heartache is real. What do we do when we are feeling overwhelmed by life? I know that we have to use faith and we have to pray about these things and trust God to work everything out that we cannot work out on our own. We have a Heavenly Father who loves us and who cares about our pain. He sees our tears and He feels our heartache. He is a loving God that is moved by our feelings and moves upon us to help us through these difficult times.
The honest truth is that we need each other. None of us are so strong that we can get through this life alone even though most of us want to believe that we truly are that strong. I want to encourage you to take time for each other. Be patient with one another. You never know what someone is walking through. Not a single one of us has ever walked in another person’s shoes and there is no way that we can possibly imagine what someone is going through. We may have had similar experiences but very rarely are our experiences exactly alike. If someone needs to talk, then please be patient enough to listen to them. If someone is hurting, be the person that will give an encouraging word. Be the one who will hold another person if they need to be held. Let them know it is okay to cry sometimes. That is why God put tear ducts in our eyes.
Remember the words of Jesus in Matthew 25:35-40 “for I was hungry and you gave Me food; I was thirsty and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in; I was naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was in prison and you came to Me.’ “Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink? When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and clothe You? Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You?’ And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren, you did it to Me.”